Flirting is almost an art form. It takes much practice to execute the subtle signals of interest with perfect timing. Flirting is an attitude: A good flirt is self-confident and not afraid to take risks. Be enthusiastic and positive, it works!
Women are so much more subtle about flirting clues that men need to really pay attention. Ladies, men are not used to women flirting with them. An overwhelming majority of men said they would just love it if a woman would talk to them first or at least express a larger clue that you were interested in checking them out.
For women, the key is to look approachable enough for men to feel comfortable in taking a risk. For men, the secret is in showcasing your masculinity.
If you are looking to enjoy flirting more, all it takes is a little practice. Here are some tips for women and men that can help you have more fun with flirting, and that can help you enjoy better success in your flirting endeavors.
Lip Service Both men and women are subconsciously attracted to red, moist lips because they signal youth, sex and fertility. How to make the most of it? For women, try wearing a red lipstick (red has been shown to increase a man's heart rate), which not only gives your lips that youthful color, but also makes your smile more visible and your teeth whiter. A super-shiny lip gloss can also give you an advantage, making your lips look moist and kissable. For both men and women, try licking your lips (subtlety is key here, you don't want to look like you're trying out for a porno flick.) or biting your lower lip - both are extremely effective flirting behaviors.
Flesh Out the Experience Show off the sexy parts of your body. The neck and the arch of the foot are both areas of the body that are associated with sexiness. If you are uncomfortable with showing midriff and cleavage that's not a problem. Tilt your head a little, flip your hair, or look back over your shoulder. Any of these actions can make you look more inviting. Just make sure you are wearing a top that leave your neck bare, adding the look of length. Letting your shoe dangle off your toe is a great way to shoe the arch of your foot. Look at your flirting target with your shoe precariously placed, and you'll be sending the right message.
Lock Eyes Lock eyes with the person you're flirting with for a full five to six seconds, then smile and drop your gaze. Don't stare a hole through the guy's forehead for goodness sake, just give him a smoldering come-hither look and look away. Do this at least three times in a ten to fifteen-minute period. Why? Your target needs to know it's them you're flirting with, and eye contact is a universal signal of openness.
Smile. It's so simple, isn't it? You see a woman, you smile. It is not that easy, or else you would be hooking up a lot more often. Smiling is not only a perfect way to show that you're interested, it will also let her know that you are a nice, fun guy.
Become a Greeter. Amazingly enough, the best icebreaker, the best pick-up line, and the best way to approach a woman is to walk up to her, smile, and say hi. Practice how many times in one day you can say hi to women - even if you aren't really interested in them - as it will allow you to become used to the action. If you are not close enough to intimately say hi, smile and wave.
Hand out personalized business cards. Have some business cards made out with clever lines on them. You can even buy the pre-perforated blank cards at the office supply stores. Print some out with your e-mail address and phone number listed on them and add something creative to them. It'll beat giving her your actual business card and providing her with your work info.
Be prepared for rejection. Here's where flirting turns sour: When she disses you. We all get turned down, even really slick guys (although they'd never admit it). Think of it as a numbers game. The more women you encounter, the more of a chance that you will get turned down - and the better your chances are to get a date.
Flirting should always be fun. Less is more when it comes to flirting, so create your presence, make your point, make your move and make them crave.
